Stop Self-Abandoning in Love (6-Part Video Series)

STOP SELF-ABANDONING IN LOVE

You can love someone deeply without losing yourself in the process.

A 6-part video experience to help you recognise the moments you leave yourself in relationships — understand why you do it — and begin finding your way back to you.

5 relationship teachings + EFT integration practice
Instant access · Watch at your own pace · $24.95

DO YOU RECOGNISE YOURSELF HERE?

Maybe you know the relationship isn’t giving you what you need…
but you keep finding reasons to stay.

You overthink their messages.
You find yourself waiting for reassurance.
You give more, explain more, tolerate more.
You focus on who they could become rather than what they’re actually offering you.
You understand their wounds so deeply that somewhere along the way, you stop paying attention to your own.

Or maybe you know exactly what’s happening.
You can see the pattern clearly.
You know you’re overgiving, chasing, waiting or holding onto potential.

But when the relationship feels uncertain, knowing better doesn’t necessarily mean you can choose differently.

That’s where self-abandonment can begin.

Not because there’s something wrong with you.

But because somewhere along the way, maintaining connection with somebody else became more important than maintaining connection with yourself.

WHAT IF YOU DIDN’T HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN LOVE AND YOURSELF?

This work isn’t about becoming harder.

It isn’t about becoming less sensitive, less compassionate or less loving.

And it isn’t about learning how to stop caring.

It’s about recognising the moments you begin leaving yourself in order to maintain connection with somebody else.

The moments you override what you know.
Ignore what you need.
Chase reassurance.
Hold onto potential.
Explain away behaviour that doesn’t actually feel good to you.
Or make somebody else’s behaviour mean something about your worth.

And then, slowly, learning another way.

I can care without carrying.
I can love without losing myself.
I can understand their story and still choose me.

WHAT’S INSIDE THE SERIES

VIDEO 1 — WHAT IS SELF-ABANDONMENT?

Start by recognising what self-abandonment actually looks like in relationships — including the ways it can happen so subtly that you may not even realise you’re doing it.

VIDEO 2 — WHY YOU KEEP SELF-ABANDONING (EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER)

Because recognising a pattern and being able to change it are two very different things. Begin understanding why you can know better and still find yourself pulled back into the same familiar patterns.

VIDEO 3 — HOW YOU LOSE YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS (WITHOUT REALISING IT)

Begin noticing the places where maintaining connection with somebody else can slowly pull you away from connection with yourself.

VIDEO 4 — HOW TO REBUILD SELF-TRUST (AND STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF)

Bring the focus back to you — rebuilding your relationship with yourself and beginning to trust what you feel, what you need and what you know.

VIDEO 5 — WHAT SECURE, HEALTHY LOVE ACTUALLY FEELS LIKE (AND HOW TO HOLD IT)

Explore what happens when love doesn’t require you to chase, prove, over-function or lose yourself — and why healthier connection can sometimes feel unfamiliar when you’re used to something very different.

VIDEO 6 — COME HOME TO YOURSELF: INTEGRATION TAPPING

Bring everything together with an EFT tapping practice to help you integrate what you’ve explored and reconnect with yourself.

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THIS IS FOR YOU IF…

You find yourself:

• Overgiving or over-functioning in relationships
• Chasing reassurance when somebody becomes distant
• Holding onto somebody’s potential instead of responding to their reality
• Explaining away behaviour that doesn’t actually feel good to you
• Understanding everybody else’s needs while minimising your own
• Knowing a relationship pattern isn’t serving you but struggling to stop repeating it
• Losing connection with yourself when you’re afraid of losing connection with somebody else

You don’t need another person to be “bad” before you’re allowed to acknowledge that something isn’t good for you.

And you don’t have to stop loving somebody in order to start choosing yourself.

A DIFFERENT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WORK

Ultimately, this work isn’t about becoming less loving.

It’s about learning to love without leaving yourself behind.

To notice what happens inside you when connection feels threatened.
To create space between the feeling and the reaction.
To let other people show you who they are.
And to trust yourself with what you see.

Because the relationship you have with yourself changes the relationships you’re willing to participate in.

START HERE

If you’re beginning to recognise your own relationship patterns and you’re ready to experience what it feels like to come back to yourself, this is a beautiful place to begin.

Stop Self-Abandoning in Love

5 relationship teachings + EFT integration practice

Watch privately, at your own pace, and return to the videos whenever you notice yourself slipping back into an old relationship pattern.

Instant access · $24.95

Catherine Nyika
The Inner Shine Clinic
Creator of From Loop to Love™

Break the patterns. Come home to yourself.